Thenewold, 55

I'm out to friends, not family and not co-workers. I don't think s----l orientation is a relevant topic for either group. So I'm a gay man in SLC who's married to a woman. She's very aware of who and what I am and she's very good with it. We have a very stable relationship but I need a man in my life. You have to be OK with dating a married man to hang with me. But never worry about the wife visiting your house in the middle of the night with a baseball bat or crank calling your house. She is my best friend and we have that kind of relationship. No jealousy here. I know I must be smoking crack to think that I'll find a guy who's cool with this in Utah, but I have to try. I'm not down with the one-night stands & such.